Dinosaurs are boring. There. I said it. And for that matter, so is anything to do with Outer Space. And you know what else? I hated the movie Titanic.
It's okay if we don't all like the same things, keep the same interests, wear the same clothes, watch the same t.v. shows. How boring the world would be if everyone thought the same thoughts, wished the same wishes, had the same favourites, dreamed the same dreams.
I remember when A. was first diagnosed, how I held it as a real goal to expand his areas of interest. I was so concerned that my little boy, freshly turned 3, was only really interested in trucks. Looking back, it would have been a good thing if someone had taken me aside and told me to smarten up. But, I was confused, overwhelmed, and perhaps overly concerned. Unfortunately, the early intervention team did nothing to console me, they actually thought this was a legitimate goal. "Dinosaurs" became one of his "programs" and time was actually scheduled each day for him to play dinosaurs. Off I trotted to the store and bought every variety of toy dinosaur there was. Of course, once Aiden learned all of their names, he quickly lost interest.
Two years later, and two years wiser, I can clearly see what a pathetic goal this was. I have, instead, watched as he naturally developed new interests, simply by being exposed to different subjects, and the world in general.
And now, I wonder, so what if he never had developed new interests? What would have been so catastrophic about a little boy loving trucks more than any other toy in the world? Nothing. Not a thing.
It's okay if dinosaurs are boring. It's okay if your child, on or off the spectrum doesn't like the newest craze, or the topic that is deemed "typical" for their age group and gender. Who cares?! Be wary of goals that are set by others as important for your child... Let's lose the goal of having our kids blend in. Instead, let's focus on developing our whole child, and appreciating their areas of interests...letting them be windows into engaging play, meaningful conversation, and use their interests to help them develop and learn other things.
And while I'm fessing up...I might as well admit to this too. I don't watch any of the medical drama series on t.v. Not the one.