For me, wording is everything. I have a background in anthropology, and truly believe that the words we choose cannot be seperated from our viewpoints, understandings, and perspectives. It's kind of like how the Inuit have like a gazillion words for snow, because snow plays such a large role in their lives. Their language reflects that.
It's why I so hate the word "autistic". I don't just use person first terminology because it is politically correct, I use it so that my language reflects my thoughts, that a person comes before their label.
The latest word that is beginning to fall harshly on my ears is one that you might not expect. It's one I didn't always mind, but really irks me now. Inclusion. It's not the practise that bothers me, but the word itself. (although I do have my own view points of full inclusion, which is a different issue altogether.)
What does it mean to be included? In my mind it would involve accomodations being made so that all people could be participants. By its very nature, we have to assume that the enviornment or activity is, under normal circumstances in some way non-accessible to those being included.
When I was a little girl, my older sisters were often reminded to 'include' me in their games.
Call me a word snob if you like, but I don't want my boy to be just included. I want him to belong. It feels like if you have to be included, it sends the message that you are being pulled in from outside the group. Outsiders being allowed in. I don't like that word. I don't know a better one yet, I'm still thinking about it.... I do not see people with exceptionalities as being outsiders, I see them as full bodied, equally important human beings. Like my favourite line from the HBO Temple Grandin movie..."Different, not less."
Again, it's not that I am in disagreement with the practise of inclusion itself, I see the world as being for all, and the more we can make all places for all, the better. It's just the word.
And the wording is everything.